emotional abuse is when someone does something to hurt you, and when you express your feelings, that you’re upset, they turn it around to be something you did to hurt them and they force you to apologize for it, and your feelings, like always, are rendered invalid and silenced, forever damaging the ability to trust others with your feelings because they always are used against you.
this is important because so many people don’t know this
Manhattan Beach sunset
You don’t ever really let go, though. You don’t stop. You don’t stop hurting, you don’t stop loving. It doesn’t go away, you just keep living and eventually things get pushed into the background of your life so it’s not consuming you every day. And then one day you know you’re okay. It still hurts, you still miss that person. And yeah, you forget the details. The way she smelled, the way her mouth tasted, how her skin felt, the sound of her voice. It’s almost like a different life, a different person that loved her, was with her. But on a day-to-day level, you know you’re okay. Sort of.
Falling Into You (Jasinda Wilder)
I really wanted to say I don’t miss you at all, not even a little; that you leaving made me some good and that a smile appears on my face every time I think you and I are not what we used to be, not anymore. But I’ve never been a good lier, you know that. “You know that”, this kills me a little more each time. Today they asked me about you and I started to say how special you are, and everything I admired in you. Things that only me got the chance to know. But in the moment they asked me how have you been, and I stopped and thought about this question for some seconds and felt the power of timing. Finally I answered: “I don’t know, I don’t know him anymore”. And I guess nothing hurts me more than your name on their lips, simply because it can’t be on mine anymore.
Fourth paragraph of the letter I’ll never give to you but I wish you read. (via writtenpolaroid)
I am certain of you. I might never know how I want to get my hair cut, or what sneakers I want to wear to the gym, or what to order when I go to a restaurant. I might never be able to make a basic decision. I have been uncertain about things for almost twenty years, but there is one thing that I have never been so certain about before in my life and that is you. I am certain of us. I am certain of you.